hustle hard.

HustleHard

Lately I’ve had not motivation to write. It is extremely tiring trying to balance my life in Japan. I’m either doing homework or exploring, which has left me with very little time to write about things that don’t relate to my travel section. However, at this exact moment…8:42PM on Sunday, September 21st I had to put myself in check. I’m blasting Drake in my room and hear “Oh well…guess you lose some and win some. Long as the outcome is income,” and I immediately grab my laptop and open up a new wordpress post. I started this blog not to join some type of trend, but to share my thoughts, improve my writing, and get a start on my future career (in a way). This is an ongoing project, and the work I put in with this blog could one day be income (hence why Drake inspired me). With that being said…here’s my message to you all [Ignore the fact that I sound like an Everest commercial] :

Hustle hard. 

There is a long list of articles, interviews and songs that I could embed in this post, so I can get my point across, but those aren’t always useful. Sometimes it just takes a short post like this to inspire you and get you on your feet.

If I counted how many books, workout plans, even blogs that I have started and not finished…you would laugh in my face. And I’m sure I could do the same for some of you reading. The problem is…it’s not funny. While some are chillin’ and living life with no real commitments to anything that matters, others are out there getting it. And by it I mean money, a brand, a lifetime of success.

It sounds cliche, but it’s real life! I have seen so many of my peers (yes, twenty year olds!) make their dreams come true, and I have seen others lose all of their motivation to do something with their lives. I am complete believer in the idea that college is not necessarily for everyone, but success is for anyone who wants it.

We make these plans in our heads, and like most things they fall into the short-term memory category. Just like that an idea is gone because it wasn’t written down on paper. It wasn’t tangible. Let’s stop waiting until New Years Eve to make a resolution or to brainstorm a new idea. Instead, start making 5-year plans and vision boards that become daily rescinders to do what you need to do to get to where you want to go. I’m not saying start today, but start soon.

“Everything comes to him who hustles while he waits.” ~Thomas Edison

“I do not know anyone who has gotten to the top without hard work. That is the recipe. It will not always get you to the top, but it will get you pretty near.” ~Margret Thatcher

“But for me to have the opportunity to stand in front of a bunch of executives and present myself, I had to hustle in my own way. I can’t tell you how frustrating it was that they didn’t get that. No joke – I’d leave meetings crying all the time.” ~Kanye West

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age can be ‘just’ a number.

Age Can Be Just A Number

Back story: When a blast from the past used to show up in my life (especially during my prime), I would get completely thrown off my game. However lately I have been realizing how different my responses are when something of that nature happens – my actions/reactions are “mature.” It got me thinking about if the change was because I was older or because I had experienced this situation before and therefore mentally prepared to address the past.

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I have never been one to believe in the idea that maturity is solely determined by age.

Often times when I am having this debate with someone, it typically is about their significant other. When one of my friends pulls the scientific “well guys brains aren’t fully developed until the age of 25, which means they will forever be immature until then,” I almost always rebuttal their statement. While that theory may stand true in many cases, I have seen some of my peers act more mature than 40+ year-old adults.

Sometimes age can be ‘just’ a number, with maturity developing from experience. 

[Pause] What is maturity? Of course I looked it up and thought this was the best definition from the Oxford English Dictionary:

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[Resume] Personally I feel as though I am mature because I was exposed to a lot. People often times take that statement out of context, so let me quickly explain. My parents didn’t shelter me (that much), I grew up in Chicago (which is something extremely unique, special and sometimes difficult), and I hung out around people who, although my age, were experienced in all aspects of life. I could add on to the list, but there is no need. Simply put, those foundations of my life (plus some) have led to various experiences, which have aware and prepared for a lot of things I have already faced and will face.

Now referencing the definition of maturity, I do agree that now that I am twenty-years-old I am technically considered “grown,” but that doesn’t change the fact that I felt in some way mentally mature by age 16/17.

That’s it.

I don’t have a conclusion to this post as I am still processing whether or not my argument is valid or even understandable. I’m somewhat opposed to answering my post with an “it depends on the person” response, but maybe it’s true that both age and experience play a role.

“Most people don’t grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”

~Dr. Maya Angelou 

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a simple letter to my readers.

Dear Readers,

I haven’t written in a while.

When my last update was due there was surprisingly no wifi on the plane. No biggie. So I decided to have two posts ready for this week. Now it’s 6AM, Friday in Japan and I’m just now having time to write a little something..

It’s weird because I didn’t want this blog to be one solely about my travels, but I am learning a lot about myself and others so quickly that I think it is only right to share within my main posts.

Please bear with me and my schedule…it’s kinda hard to post for my readers (mainly those in the US) and still get enough sleep!

日本からの平和と愛 (Peace and Love from Japan),

Cassidy

 

P.S. Changes are being made to the site. Enjoy.

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first things first.

First Things First

Why are so many of us caught up in trying to find the perfect one to be with when we don’t even completely know ourselves? And if we happen to know who we are, why are we trying to rush in to a relationship with someone who is not in that same place?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, especially as I find myself interested in new guys or one guy (or whateva). I mean, I know who I am (as much as I can know as a 20 year old), and typically surround myself with people who have already encountered some sort of self-discovery stage. However, my confidence in who exactly Cassidy is…could change at any moment. Same with anyone else.

Side Note:  I’m not saying I’m insecure in any aspect. In fact, I am very confident in who I am. It hasn’t always been that way, but the older I get, the easier it becomes.

But not everybody is like me. I know people my age who don’t even know what to do with their lives without help, meaning almost every thought, action, opinion and decision is filtered and approved by others. That type of person doesn’t know who they are, yet is the same person posting on every social media site that they are longing to have a significant other.

If that is you…sit down, I have something say:

What he/she (or you) is failing to realize is that that “significant other” will just be another person who sets he/she (or you) back from being and holding their (or your) own.

From experience I know that entering a relationship without knowing yourself is most damaging to you. You get so lost and caught up in the idea of having someone who completes you, when in realitiy you needed to be “a complete you” prior to that relationship. Parents know. That’s why a lot of them don’t encourage their kids to enter relationships young. But it happens, and we learn from it every time.

I titled this post “First Things First” because I think that is important to realize that you should first be confident in yourself before pursuing others. A lot of people say “to know yourself is to love yourself,” and yes…that’s true. But it is to also have a clear understanding of who you are in this world and have an idea of the role you want to play in the lives of others.

So the next time you start talking to someone besides just asking if you are ready for a relationship ask yourself, “do I really know myself?,” and then go from there.

Remember this: “I am mine. Before anyone else’s.” -L

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a prized possession.

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Police: “So tell us what happened…”

“Well…someone came in the store and took one of our finest piece of jewelry yesterday.”

Police: “And can you describe what the jewelry looked like?”

“The face of bracelet shined so bright, and the strap was a deep chocolate brown. Durable, yet delicate. Valuable, but had more years to grow in worth. One of the most beautiful pieces.”

Police: “Who do you think was responsible for this incident?”

“This isn’t the first time this has happened, sir. I know you’ve seen these stories all over the news. It had to have been the same person. Someone who felt threatened by its importance, so they carelessly abused it. Someone who felt the need to diminish its value and steal it from us.”

Police: “And do you know why they would specifically target your store?”

“I don’t know, but maybe you could tell me..”

 

RIP Michael Brown, you will always be a prized possession in our eyes.

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approved selfishness.

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Today was a fairly busy day for me. Although it was my off day, I spent more than half of my day cleaning my house (per my ma’s request), finishing up assignments for my internship, teaching my dad how to upload articles to LinkedIn and making dinner for my family. I only took an hour for myself and went to the gym, but it honestly was not enough alone time. Do not let this slight rant fool you from my reality, I love helping others.

The problem is that often times I get so caught up in doing just that.

I don’t consider myself a selfish person, and I never want to be looked at in that way. I love helping people, especially if it’s for the betterment of themselves. Completing tasks that potentially ease the pressure off people like my boss, friends and/or family members makes me feel like I’m doing something helpful or putting my “skills” to good use, I guess.

Apparently I am still learning that not everyone is going to think the same way as me, especially when it comes to the willingness to help others. Now, by “helping” I don’t just mean completing a task of some sort, I mean listening, assisting, caring, etc.

There have been many instances in the past year that have shown me people’s selfish tendencies that were completely destructive to our relationship. One person in particular used to spend hours on the phone telling me about their life without once asking me what is going on in mine. I mean, I don’t have a problem with listening, but I do like getting a word in every once in a while.

Those many phone conversations have influenced my thought about this idea of  “approved selfishness.”

I found myself in a hard place wondering if I should answer the phone when that person called or just let it ring. Should I be selfish or remain the same listening ear. 

Balance is required in almost everything you do in life. In this case, don’t be too selfish, but also never be too giving of yourself. If we lean more to one side, it becomes damaging to ourselves and to others.

As I grow older this topic becomes more relevant in my life and I still do not have all of the answers. I am hoping that as I finish out the summer and study abroad in Japan I will be able to better understand how it is possible to make this balance in both doing me and giving some of me.

 

Expect more blog posts on this topic.

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the beginning.

 

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There are a few things I need you to know before deciding to keep up with this blog:

1. I write what I want. I’d like to consider myself an open-minded person, but I am entitled to my opinion, as are you. I am going to write about a variety of topics and encourage your feedback and comments. However, I will not fight with anyone to defend my opinion, that is not what this blog is for.

2. My blog is not focused. In the past I have used a number of platforms to zone in on one topic; this is not one of those blogs. This blog is about the beautiful thoughts, things, and beings (peep the above image) that I experience and I could not possibly narrow them down to one category, as they are equally important.

3. Credit will be given. Any graphics, quotes, etc. you see posted will be mine beginning with the header reading ‘Days of Infatuation.’ If it is not my work, I will acknowledge the person or people who are responsible.

4. There are parts. You will see a number of “categories” on my blog. Although I just said that I wouldn’t separate anything, I want you all to be able to easily navigate through it. Everything goes as follows:

  • Home – Where my main posts will reside
  • The Good Stuff – Speaks for itself
    • The Camera – An exhibit of the many pictures that I never make time to upload to Facebook
    • Good Reads – A highlight of one of my favorite pastimes – reading… as I will discuss the books, articles, magazines, etc. I am reading or have read
    • The Places I’ll Go – A map-like structure of the beautiful places I travel, and also the home for my study abroad posts
    • Yum – Pictures and blurbs of great food and restaurants that I would normally keep to myself
  • About – A place where you can learn very little about me, the author
  • Contact – The only way for you to call me, beep me, if you wanna reach me

5. Posts will come and go. All posts featured on the ‘Home’ page will remain until I decide to move on from this blog. I will upload a new “main” blog post every Friday (please keep that in mind). The posts featured on the other pages will most likely change multiple times throughout the week. If you miss something, no worries…I’ll have them archived for future reference.

6. Vulnerability lives here. One thing I am still learning about being independent is that I must also accept the necessity to be vulnerable in order to live and express yourself in this crazy world. So bear with me as I openly share with you.

 

And with that…welcome to my blog: Days of Infatuation.

 

 

 

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